When should I ask for help?

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Don’t wait until tomorrow, reach out for support today. If things are really bad and you need someone to talk to right now call the Samaritans on 116 123.

“The most important thing to keep in mind is that there is no problem too small to share and the sooner you seek help the less likely it is to overwhelm you. Don’t wait until it’s too much for you to manage. Seek help as soon as you can.”

There are many reasons why people may delay asking for help; they may not want to appear weak, they may feel they’d be letting down the people who rely upon them, or maybe they don’t feel they are worth looking after, or perhaps they are just too busy, there isn’t time to reach out.

So what can we do to make it easier for people to ask for help? Being mindful if friends or colleagues begin to act differently. Are they quieter than usual, or not turning up for social occasions? Asking twice whether they are ok. The first answer is usually ‘fine’, but asking twice gives people the opportunity to be honest and I know people for whom this has made all the difference and enabled them to reach out for support.

We can also initiate conversations about mental health, whether it’s a casual reference to something in the news, or another friend who may have reached out for help. By letting those close to us know how we feel about talking about mental health issues we reassure them that if they have need to in the future we are approachable and would support them in a positive way.

So what should we do when we need help? There are many options available but in the moment when we feel stuck in our problem it can be difficult to know where to begin. Friends and family, or our GP can be the first place people turn. If things are really bad and you need someone to talk to right now call the Samaritans on 116 123 or you can email them, although you may have to wait for a response it’s usually within 24 hours.

You may find reassurance reading forums, you don’t even have to participate but just hearing other people share their stories can mean you don’t feel so alone in your problems. MIND (www.mind.org.uk) can be a useful starting place with lots of resources and guidance about what to do next.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that there is no problem too small to share and the sooner you seek help the less likely it is to overwhelm you. Don’t wait until it’s too much for you to manage. Seek help as soon as you can.

Anna Pittard Hypnotherapy

07955 317655

info@annapittardhypnotherapy.co.uk